Have you heard of squirting but still feel a little confused as to exactly what it is? You aren’t alone. Even doctors aren’t completely sure what it is! I like to think of it as one of the many magical mysteries of being a woman.
One thing is for certain, squirting happens and it’s pretty awesome. Whether you are wondering what causes squirting, how to squirt, or what squirting feels like, we’ll cover all that and more.
What Is Squirting?
Put simply, squirting is when the urethra releases fluid when a woman is turned on.
Some doctors believe there is erectile tissue surrounding the female urethra, similar to the male urethra. Fluid is believed to be expelled when this tissue contracts.
How Much Fluid Comes Out During Squirting?
The amount of fluid released during squirting depends on the person. You may experience a gush of fluid, a dribble, or you may not squirt at all (all are normal!).
The amount can also vary from day to day. Maybe it is just a bit one day and a lot another time.
Do You Need a Partner To Squirt?
No, you do not need a partner to squirt — especially if you have a good G-stimulating toy!
Is Squirting An Orgasm?
Squirting and orgasms are different but can certainly happen at the same time. Squirting can also happen on its own, before an orgasm, or after. It can also occur without an orgasm altogether. It can also happen during orgasms.
Now For the Biggest Question – Is It Pee?
Is squirting pee? Depending on who you ask, you’ll probably hear a variety of answers. Squirting is thought to contain a variety of components — creatine, uric acid, urea — that are also found in urine. It also contains a bit of fluid from the Skene’s gland and vaginal lubricant mixed in.
The bottom line? We aren’t sure what it is made of. But does it matter much? Sex involves a variety of fluids and is often messy anyway. And if you are enjoying yourself — who cares what the fluid is made of!
How Do I Avoid A Mess When Squirting?
If the mess concerns you, consider laying down a waterproof squirting blanket, a thick towel, or a mattress pad over your bed. The tub or shower also make ideal places for squirting because you can completely let loose and enjoy yourself — no cleanup necessary.
Is Female Ejaculation the Same as Squirting?
Squirting and female ejaculation are often used interchangeably due to their similarities and the fact that they can occur at the same time. However, there are subtle differences thought to exist.
Like squirting, female ejaculation refers to the expulsion of fluid from the urethra and possibly other areas during arousal. However, the secretion in female ejaculation is a thicker, milky fluid from the Skene’s gland and usually occurs during orgasm.
Sounds Great – How Do I Squirt?
G-spot (or as I prefer to call it, the G-Zone) stimulation seems to be the most surefire way to squirt. To up your chances, even more, consider combining G-spot stimulation with clitoral touching.
Following are some ideas if you want to squirt.
1. Work Your PC Muscles
A great way to up your chances of squirting — and reap a host of other benefits such as increased bladder control and — is to exercise your PC muscles. These muscles support and wrap around the pelvic and are associated with:
- Improved chance of reaching orgasm
- Strong orgasms
- Increased chance of squirting
To help identify the muscles needed to do Kegels, cut off your flow of urine next time you are peeing. You will likely feel a sensation that feels like “pulling up”. Once you recognise the sensation of contracting and releasing those muscles, try pulling up and releasing these muscles 30 times a day.
2. Pee Before You Try To Squirt
Since the stimulation needed to squirt may mimic the sensation of having to pee, it is helpful to urinate before trying to squirt. Plus, knowing your bladder is empty will likely help you relax and allow yourself to release and completely give in to the sensation.
3. Use the Right Toy
A sex toy specifically designed to stimulate the G-spot can be a great way to experiment with learning to squirt or squirting more often. A toy can be especially helpful if you are practising solo as the front wall of the vagina can be hard to reach with your fingers.
You can certainly use a toy with a partner too, though! Be sure to use plenty of lube.
If you aren’t sure what toy to choose, we’ve created a special combo to set you up for squirting success. Check out our Squirt Essential Kit here. I’m always here if you need specific product recommendations for squirting – please do not hesitate to contact me.
4. Have Your Partner Lend a Hand
If you are with a partner, have them finger you:
- Using one or two lubricated fingers (and once you are fully relaxed and warmed up), have your partner penetrate about 2 inches deep
- Locate the urethral sponge — this area feels like a small mound on the vagina’s front wall
- Apply consistent pressure while using a “come hither” motion
- Try to stay relaxed and focus on enjoying the experience
- Breathe deep, take things slow, communicate clearly and honestly, and give yourself as much time as needed to keep learning, experimenting, and trying
- If desired, rub your clit as your partner fingers you
5. Know the Best Positions for Squirting
If your partner has a penis, shallow penetration is one of the best ways to squirt. Positions that aim at the top wall of the vagina are ideal.
Here are some of the best sex positions for squirting:
- Missionary – Place a pillow under your butt to change the angle of the vulva so the upper part of the vagina can be more easily stimulated during penetration.
- Facedown on your stomach – Lay on your stomach with your legs together and have your partner enter from behind slowly and locate the G-spot (communication is key here, as it always is during sex!)
- You can also try using a vibrator or fingers on your clit as your partner penetrates you
Avoid Focusing Too Much On Squirting
As with almost anything when it comes to sex, it all comes down to staying relaxed and not putting any pressure on yourself or your partner. The only ‘goal’ during sex should be enjoying yourself, feeling comfortable and safe, having fun, and learning more about your body and what you like and don’t like.
You can try to squirt and desire to squirt, but do not make it the entire focus of sex. Yes, squirting is amazing, but if you have never squirted before or never do, that is okay! Sex can still be earth-shattering and mind-blowing without squirting.
Can Any Woman Squirt?
As with other facets of squirting, there is some debate over whether or not any woman is capable of squirting. Some say that any woman can do it given the right amount of practice. Others say it just isn’t possible for some women.
My take? As long as you are having fun, it doesn’t hurt to try! Even if you do not squirt, you can still learn so much about your body and likes/dislikes in the process.
Is It Normal If I Can’t Squirt?
If you have never squirted or are unable to, there is no need to feel inadequate or stressed. Everybody is different, everyone experiences sex differently, and squirting just may not be your thing.
Whether you squirt every time you have sex, only now and then, or never — there is nothing to be ashamed of! Just as an orgasm isn’t necessary for awesome sex, squirting isn’t either.
Do You Have More Questions About Squirting?
Feel like there’s no one you can talk with about squirting? It can be tough finding people you trust and are comfortable enough with to ask all of your questions that may feel “off-limits”. That’s why I created my Facebook group, a dedicated, safe space for women to discuss anything and everything when it comes to their bodies, sex, female empowerment, and more.
I invite you to join this sacred, exclusive group and share your squirting experiences, tips, and questions.
Wishing you a wet and wild time!